How I love the start of a brand-new shiny year ahead! The promise of a fresh start, a chance to do things differently. And so – into 2017 we go – many are glad to see the back of 2016 too though I do not believe there are such things as “bad years” and “good years” – it’s just life. I also don’t believe as such in “resolutions” but I definitely believe in the opportunities that each year brings with it which of course includes taking on board all the learning from the previous one… Here are a few good things to try:
1. How to make successful choices:
Do your best – whatever you’re doing. Zen says ‘the way you do anything is the way you do everything’ so give it 100%. Even if ultimately you see yourself doing something quite different work-wise, give it your all now and watch those opportunities unfold.
Don’t let money and security dictate your choices. This may sound really strange during hard times but life changes and circumstances can throw any security you think you have out of the door. Real security now means knowing actually that there is no real security because then you really will live each day to its fullest.
If nothing else, have a digital detox some time in January! Every time we’re interrupted by an email alert or text, it takes 22 minutes to get back to our original level of focus. So have a digital Sabbath, curtail Facebook use and read emails only in batches.
2. Best routes to happiness:
Look up, look out and smile. It’s a beautiful world and smiling, if you can, really does change the way you might be feeling. Just be open to good things. They are everywhere but most of the time we don’t notice them because the default setting is to look for the opposite or resist change when it comes.
Listen less to others and more to yourself. And trust what you hear. You are usually right!
Do something – any action is often better than none, especially if you’ve been stuck in an unhappy situation. If it’s a mistake you learn so it’s no longer a mistake. If you remain stuck, you learn nothing.
3. Decide how you really want to live
It’s your life. Go your own way. Do less. If you’re exhausted and are juggling too many things, say “no” more. Say “I will do less”. Be authentic – true to yourself and to others. How are you really feeling? What do you really want? Do more of that or more actions to take you there.
Learn not to ignore your emotional state. When it’s sunny people do more. When we’re stressed we get more tunnel-visioned. Our decisions are swayed by our emotions so take note of them. Note your emotional state and remind yourself why you’re feeling the way you are and this way you’ll make better judgements.
Improvise and live in the moment. Mindfulness – doing anything mindfully really does work and makes you calmer and happier.
This blog is to myself and to everyone who is gracious enough to read it.
Happy 2017! May it be full of wise decisions, wellbeing and focus.